Family values
January 11, 2013 Leave a comment
He’s squinting which makes him look mean or unhappy, his posture is a little off-kilter, and he’s wearing a tatty old cardigan. On the other hand, he has a name that sounds great in any time period (Elias… cut-off but shown on the window of his store), he’s wearing a nicely knotted necktie over a crisp white shirt and his hair is combed. I’m not sure what to make of his pants that look like jodhpurs but maybe horses were one his interests. He’s my grandfather on my dad’s side and I never met him.
He was gone for probably 20 years before I was even born but he’s always been a force somehow in my life. Perhaps I romanticize his influence. After all, our lives never intersected, but the notion of a solid upbringing and the passing of enduring values cannot be easily dismissed. I think his son, my father, channeled his father much as I often feel I channel my father.
There’s only one other picture that I’ve seen of my grandfather, an elaborately formal family portrait in which he stood regally behind my grandmother. Strong, erect, and almost dashing in a sort of Omar Sharif kind of way, the portrait was taken about 30 years before the one I’ve included here. Fascinating, for me anyway, to see this rich history of him, of me one could say.